Christian Girl In The Dating World: Part 2

There comes a time in every girls dating life where she is faced with two choices.  She can be the good girl, the one that plays by the rules, or she can be the bad girl, ignore the rules and take down anyone that stands in her way.

These fight or flight moments often leave me confused, because I am constantly asking myself if I am being a good Christian.  While the commandments teach to not “covet thy neighbors wife” is it wrong to covet anyone in a relationship?

Here is the situation.  I am starting to realize that I am interested in a guy friend as more than just a friend.  But… he is dating someone.  I’ve been his sounding board for dating advice, and to my credit, I have been honest with him about what I think he should do.  I’ve also done my best to ignore my own feelings.

The “other” woman is about to move across the country, and my guy is trying to decide if he should stay in the relationship (which will be long distance), or break up with her.  In my head I am screaming “break up”, but when I talk to him, I don’t voice my opinion.

I feel like it is un-Christian to either profess my feelings, or not profess my feelings but encourage them to break  up.  However, I am playing the “game of love” and want a chance to try things with him.  My values tell me to let it play out, but there is another part of me that feels that I need to put a stake in the ground and claim what I want.  At what point am I betraying my religion, my values, or the chance at love?